Here’s a common scenario: You meet someone new, and one look is all it takes to light the fuse of sexual fireworks. No one enters a marriage thinking they will one day get divorced.You can barely keep your hands off each other — and the excitement of it all feels like falling in love. Generally, all men and women get married bright-eyed and open-hearted, believing that divorce happens to other people. Well, do people think you’re difficult to be around?
This is all subject to change after you have been dating awhile and the relationship has become more serious.9. Sure, you've got a host of charming stories, but save some for the second date. "My male clients bemoan the lack of warmth that women project," says Kelleher. "My male clients also complain that women often come across as masculine—dressing in stiff suits and debating their date on everything from what wine to order to world affairs to who gets the check," says Kelleher. But there must be an ember of initial attraction to build from.
"Men really want to occasionally get a word in edgewise," says Brooks. "Guys say many women clearly don't want their date to give them a hug or open the door." Lower your guard, flex those lips into a smile and be nice.11. (Let him.) In other words: It's a date, not a boxing match.12. Without any chemistry, Warren says, you're better off as friends.14. Spindel is adamant that you should forego sex at least for a little while.
It's smarter to look for a man who doesn't need healing.6. Men are understandably appalled when their bright, attractive, funny date suddenly does something tacky like ripping a piece of bread in half and putting the other half back in the bread basket or applying lipstick at the table.
"Men also find it gauche when the woman calls for the check," says Brooks. But when you're getting to know someone, ask yourself if you and he have the same core values," says Warren, also the author of .
But if the well-known statistic is true, nearly half of marriages end this way. Do they not trust you or respect you the way you wish they would?