If a relationship with someone makes you feel bad, that is your mind screaming, “This person is incompatible with you! ” If a relationship feels like suffocation, that’s a huge clue that you’re not in a relationship with someone who’s compatible with you. In a good relationship, everything just unfolds effortlessly (well, 99% of the time within a good relationship is effortless with the occasional 1% of the time where you have to put in the effort to make sure things stay in a good place).
You don’t feel like you’re walking on eggshells, worrying that you might screw something up. You don’t feel like you’re suffocating, wishing and hoping to finally get some sweet relief and get to breathe. In fact, you never even think about possibly losing them because you don’t feel you need to possess them in order to experience the love you have for them. Yes, popular songs make it sound like it’s supposed to be. But movies and music are wrong, love is meant to be effortless and easy. Why is breaking your fixation essential to having success in your love life?
I think most women run into issues and confusion in their love lives because they don’t know what a truly healthy relationship looks like, and is supposed to feel like.
On top of that, my homemaker wife is looking at our soon to be flying from the coop children and realizes that we have grown apart as we have been running our kids around in life for the past 20 years.
We love each other but we are also dealing with relationship issues (feels like we’ve grown apart) that makes our sex-life difficult for her emotionally, and add to that, due to her loss of libido along with her bad back, she’s really not interested in sex.
When you’re fixated on someone, it feels more like you’re suffocating. like you must have them treat you a certain way, give you a certain relationship title, or somehow prove their commitment to you.
You feel like until you have this, you are not OK and will not be OK.
My English is fair and I've my own com and net at home. Seeking an Asian/Caucasian soul mate 35-50 yrs, responsible, financially stable, warmhearted, friendly,... I'm flexible about having children and I can live anywhere with my soul mate.