Over time, I’ve learned I need to be firm on a few things I need in a partner.
I’m hoping these will be lessons that stick, so if the right person comes along I won’t be too confused to recognize her. Attraction and chemistry are definitely important, but with all the lessons life has thrown my way, I find myself appreciating time with people who stand for something.
My date brought these perfect books, specifically for their very different personalities … After the expected excitement my daughter says, “Daddy, your other friend brought us cookies …” so awkward and so hilarious! Whether you have been through a divorce, have kids, don’t have kids, never been married, it doesn’t matter. I’m an entirely different man than I was before I was married. When I think about my biggest challenge personally and what I am asking a partner to understand, it’s this: I simultaneously have both deep, intense regret that my first marriage didn’t work out, and no desire to return to that relationship.
As I have met new women, I find myself attracted to the layers, to their own brokenness, to our common ground and the resilience that comes with life experience. I think I see an inspirational quote every minute on Instagram, specifically about overcoming our failures, learning from mistakes, and being a better person each day.
Not that it requires having been through a divorce … These mantras can get tiresome, but that doesn’t make them less true.
I find it far more attractive and meaningful when someone actively supports an idea or cause.
I also know that a woman that stands firmly for her beliefs will bring a lifetime of positive impact to me and my daughters.
They are sharp little people and can tell when I get excited.