However, having sex is not just about the act, but it is about the frame of mind.
If you have lust in your heart while you are watching pornographic movies or masturbating, then there is sin there. While the idea of "born-again virgin" may seem a little like "technical virgin," it is not the same thing.
Whatever the circumstance, it’s common to compare and wonder what God is doing for others and not doing for us. For me, I moved to China to be a missionary and expected God to protect me from what I considered worst-case-scenario. He spared my friends, but allowed me to go through something extraordinarily difficult. Take a minute to let that soak in–Dad says we are his delight, his beloved.
If you are in love it does not mean you should have sex. You should never feel like you have to have sex with someone just because you want to show them you love them. However, it is dangerous to think that sex is a minor or equal sin to all others because it can put you in a frame of mind to make bad choices.
There are plenty of non-sexual ways to show your love to someone. Sexual sin is still a defiance of God, and no sin is acceptable to God.
Maybe it’s a husband for you, or perhaps a certain job. At the time of her deepest despair, a gust of wind came and she heard the word, “Tirzah”.
Maybe it’s school acceptance or healing for a family member. She had no idea what the meaning of the word, but heard it twice more.
The Bible is full of helpful advice when it comes to coping with temptation, and it can be a useful tool.